Who is the best communicator you know?Why do you consider that person to be so?
Who is the best listener you have ever known? Describe what that person does that makes him or her so good at listening.
Who makes you the most defensive when you talk with that person?What does the person do that makes you so defensive or uncomfortable?
With whom are you the most comfortable and nondefensive in conversation?What does the person do that makes you so comfortable or nondefensive?